Neednado Season: Caring for the Ones Who Spiral Hard

We’ve all been there — the tiniest sign sets off a whole storm.
A late text throws you into a textpectation spiral. Suddenly, your brain hits play on a full-screen production called: They Don’t Care About Me.

I call this cocktail Panic Projection. It’s that mix of insecurity, spiraling thoughts, and the urge to test people just to make sure they still care. It’s not fun to feel, and it’s not fun to be on the receiving end either.

If you have a girlfriend, partner, or friend who sometimes spirals into a neednado (you know, when their needs become a Category 5 storm), you know how overwhelming it can be. But here’s the truth: most of the time, they’re not trying to be “too much.” They just need a steady reminder that they’re seen and valued.

That’s where gestures come in. Regular, small, thoughtful reminders can anchor someone back into: I matter. I’m cared for. I can breathe again.

And that’s exactly why I created the Seen & Supported Care Package. It’s built for Panic Projection moments — a way to short-circuit the spiral before it turns into a full drama series. Think of it as sending love in a box, preloaded with the message: You’re safe. You’re cared for. You don’t have to question it.

So if you love someone whose storms sometimes spin out of control, don’t wait until they’re already mid-spiral. Send them regular reminders that they’re grounded in your care.

Because one steady gesture can do what reassurance-by-text never could: quiet the projection before it even begins.